She doesn't candy coat it, but she's focusing on the positive aspects of the challenges in her life. It's not the nail biting, soul searching, angst-ridden musings of a neurotic that mine is turning about to be.
One day I was reading her blog, and smiled at something her kids did. I scrolled down to read the comments. Comments can be so insightful, supportive or even controversial.
One comment said something like, "I love your blog, it's so positive. You're not whining like so many other people."
Whining. Whining? Whining.
This comment blew. my. mind.
Would the commenter have told an Iraq war veteran with posttraumatic stress disorder to stop whining? Suck it up, man, and grow some balls already?
Do you tell the parent of a child who has died to just get over it? To stop obsessing about it, and to move on already, we're sick of your crying?
Of course not. Look, autism changes your life, irrevocably. Inevitably. It can change it positively or negatively. Most times, both. It's never what you expect. And each person’s perception and experience of it is different and unique.
Communicating the hardships of raising a child with autism isn't whining, dear commenter. It's important that you recognize the challenges of raising a child with autism so that when someone asks you for help, you'll know why.
So when you're asked to support legislation and tax-funded services to help these families, you'll know why.
So when an individual with autism comes to you for a job interview, you’ll be understanding and patient.
It’s important to be aware, so when a parent of a child with autism has to leave work early because the school called (again) about yet another crisis, you’ll be sympathetic and not resentful.
So when you meet someone with autism who is behaving oddly or even aggressively, you'll know why.
And hopefully once you know why, you’ll care enough to try to do something to help.