tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7625878.post6642293428064896829..comments2024-03-12T05:55:55.243-04:00Comments on Autism Experience: Thanks, but no.Alisa Rockhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15010714783478840607noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7625878.post-10310143878591011552011-07-31T16:51:24.834-04:002011-07-31T16:51:24.834-04:00Alisa,
I totally identify with your post about &...Alisa, <br /><br />I totally identify with your post about "I can handle anything but autism." And then your son ends up with autism. So many times I have said something about what I couldn't handle or would never, ever do and then, blam, there it was. (If we were having drinks somewhere, I'd share these events with you but we're blogging, so...) Still can't decide if I "caused" something to happen by my hubris or whether I backed into a sort of clairvoyance - the future was luking out there just pointing the way to its inevitable conclusion. I kind of think it was the latter. In any case, I don't make these kinds of pronouncements anymore, just in case. Anyway, it feels like the damage has already been done. But I don't want to jinx myself any more, just in case. <br /><br />By the way, Conor is adorable. Hope things resolve positively and soon.Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06207746446238635007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7625878.post-32393697999507470962011-06-15T11:20:09.959-04:002011-06-15T11:20:09.959-04:00I've had no experience with autism, but it has...I've had no experience with autism, but it has been my experience that life will hold for you the very things you fear the most. I think everyone deals with something that terrifies them at some point in the life. If there is something you cannot tolerate, you will find it standing in front of you. Alisa, I know you are floundering right now, but if you can just focus on one moment at a time, one positive at a time. A smile, a step forward, a breath of fresh air, the sound of a bird singing outside the window. Even the smallest of things can make such a difference if we allow ourselves to notice them. Your son is more than autistic, he is who he is. I don't know if that makes sense or not. I realize it has been necessary to focus on that one part of him, but he's under that layer of autism somewhere. Is he good at anything in particular, shows joy in anything? Hope is hard to find sometimes, I do know about that. But it's worth looking for, espcially in the small things. Take one step at a time, don't think about tomorrow, think about how well you took that one step just now. No one knows what causes autism, you certainly didn't cause it. It's easy to blame ourselves for everything that happens around us, but blame is a negative. Let it go, it doesn't matter what happened in the past, it only matters what you can do with what you have right now, this very minute. Please take care.irishrybickihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02564772034196079355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7625878.post-46439270519205333722011-06-12T17:37:41.915-04:002011-06-12T17:37:41.915-04:00it certainly helps get through the rough daysit certainly helps get through the rough daysMike Shelahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03431542590664728119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7625878.post-29665314946930404642011-06-11T19:59:15.010-04:002011-06-11T19:59:15.010-04:00Thanks, Mike. It's nice to know we're not...Thanks, Mike. It's nice to know we're not alone, isn't it?Alisa Rockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15010714783478840607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7625878.post-82466790180340884622011-06-11T12:54:14.061-04:002011-06-11T12:54:14.061-04:00every time you write a post, I pull something out ...every time you write a post, I pull something out of it that is spot on relevant to my life with my autistic son. your blog is cathartic, thank you.<br /><br /><br />MikeMike Shelahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03431542590664728119noreply@blogger.com