tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7625878.post6801370028840799635..comments2024-03-12T05:55:55.243-04:00Comments on Autism Experience: On Death and The Not KnowingAlisa Rockhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15010714783478840607noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7625878.post-43665332989712685802020-12-25T23:42:28.397-05:002020-12-25T23:42:28.397-05:00Hey Alisa. I’m sorry it took me 2 years to read th...Hey Alisa. I’m sorry it took me 2 years to read this entry into your blog. As usual, your experiences and Conor’s behavior resonates me and my son, Ryan. He’s been saying similar things for years, but not because of a tragedy. However, it’s always a similar context as with Conor. Ryan can act out whenever he is upset, frustrated, or doesn’t get his way. It started at 5 when his object of obsession/affection was Wall-E. I made him several Wall-E T-shirt’s, and whenever he’d be upset, he’d take off his T-shirt and throw it in the trash. <br /><a href="https://www.myeasymusic.ir/tag/%D8%A7%D9%81%D8%B4%DB%8C%D9%86/" title="افشین" rel="nofollow">افشین</a><br /><br /><a href="https://www.myeasymusic.ir/tag/%D8%AD%D8%B3%DB%8C%D9%86-%D8%AA%D9%87%DB%8C/" title="حسین تهی" rel="nofollow">حسین تهی</a><br /><br /><a href="https://www.myeasymusic.ir/tag/%D9%85%D9%87%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%A8/" title="مهراب" rel="nofollow">مهراب</a><br />Johnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11382859797793327160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7625878.post-74322992947735973002017-12-27T11:02:31.186-05:002017-12-27T11:02:31.186-05:00Hey Alisa. I’m sorry it took me 2 years to read t...Hey Alisa. I’m sorry it took me 2 years to read this entry into your blog. As usual, your experiences and Conor’s behavior resonates me and my son, Ryan. He’s been saying similar things for years, but not because of a tragedy. However, it’s always a similar context as with Conor. Ryan can act out whenever he is upset, frustrated, or doesn’t get his way. It started at 5 when his object of obsession/affection was Wall-E. I made him several Wall-E T-shirt’s, and whenever he’d be upset, he’d take off his T-shirt and throw it in the trash. <br /><br />It’s taken me a while (years in fact), but I believe he thinks in black and white - all or nothing. He has continued with this behavior consistently for the past 9 years. But now it’s escalated to blurting out inappropriate things like, “I’m gonna cut off your penis, or I’m gonna rape you, Mom.” Just a couple weeks ago he destroyed his vintage Sega Genesis because his brother called him Lump. I think he feels that if he loses one thing, he’s lost everything - to the extreme. <br /><br />I believe it’s the reason behavior charts have never worked for him. In his mind, if he doesn’t reach his goal, then what’s the point? I’ve told each school that they may work for a little while, but then crash and burn. Every single school has ignored me and said that theirs would work. Recently he was up for “Student of the Semester.” On the day of the announcement, he kept asking staff if he was going to win. No one would give him a straight answer, so by the third time his answer was denied, he assumed he didn’t get and eloped. Grabbing women’s breasts, punching men in the groin, even calling a staff member a “ni****.”<br /><br />Once he’s calmed down, he immediately regretted his behavior. I believe his impulsivity (ADHD) gets the best of him and is the reason he acts out when he’s upset. It’s like Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde. Once the monster is set loose, there’s no reasoning with it until Dr. Jekyl returns.<br /> <br />I’m sorry if I rambled. Even though I’m not grieving such a tragic loss, I get it. I go through it every day. It can’t be easy I’m sorry you have to try to manage Conor’s unpredictable reaction to grief as you try to manage your own. Please know you are not alone. I am so very grateful for our friendship. Knowing there’s someone who gets it, someone I can lean on, makes all the difference in the world.Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13896385914415779299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7625878.post-53763716172572841492015-09-25T09:20:38.643-04:002015-09-25T09:20:38.643-04:00This is wonderfully written. It is so hard to hear...This is wonderfully written. It is so hard to hear children say things so mean, or laugh about things that hurt us so deeply. I've struggled with Emerson in this way at times. I'm sorry you have to hear it. I hope you can learn to say something positive to yourself each time you hear it. A balm you cover the wound with each time he opens it. Aniliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01675732821835432095noreply@blogger.com